When thinking about self-care as a mom, you don’t really think about it. We always put other family members’ needs before our own. Self-care is an important part of mental health and it can do wonders. However, when you really think about it, it is mostly neglected as of the reason I pointed out above.
The definition of self-care is, as Google puts it, “the practice of taking an active role in protecting one’s own well-being and happiness, in particular during periods of stress.”
The practice of taking an active role in protecting one’s own wellbeing and happiness, in particular periods of stress.Self Care Definition
When I get stressed, I tend to neglect my own self-care and put others in front of me. I am a people pleaser. My husband is constantly nagging me to take care of myself and I don’t listen. Self-care can be as simple or as complicated as you like. You can choose your own version of self-care as you see fit.
The reason why you should make self-care a priority is that it helps maintain your relationship with yourself, so that you may transmit your happy feelings to others. Treat yourself the way you would love to be treated.
There are many different ways of making self-care a priority. I will be touching base on just a few of them.
Cup of Tea
An act of self-care is making and savouring a cup of tea or coffee. (whichever you prefer) I love to think about the process of making it therapeutic. Just the feeling of emptying out the Keurig pod from the day before, filling it up and inserting it into the machine, and starting the machine is nice. Especially when the smell of coffee starts to fill the place I live in.
In my spirituality, good intentions are created by stirring your drink clockwise, and banishing negative intentions or feelings is by stirring counterclockwise. Some people love creating matcha tea by hand, and that is a whole different process by itself.
The process of creating matcha tea is as follows:
- Measure your matcha into a special matcha bowl. Depending on if you go for the traditional matcha or the flvoured matchas, depends on how much matcha you put in your bowl. For traditional matcha, use at least 3/4 of a teaspoon or 1 teaspoon of matcha powder.
- Add the right temperature of water and make a paste. In Davids Tea, they have traditional matcha and flavoured matcha. For traditional matcha, use water at 75 degrees celcius and flavoured at 85 degrees. If you have a kettle, then let your boiled water sit for 7-10 minutes. Add 2 oz of water to your powder and use the traditional wisk to make a paste.
- After that, add another 2 oz of warm water to create a froth. This will help incorporate air into your matcha.
- Add to your cup and fill with warm water from the kettle.
The steps are the same for iced matcha, but instead of filling your cup with warm water at the end, you pour it over ice.
I love to read. It is one of my favourite past times. It allows me to escape reality even for a little bit. Reading doesn’t take as many steps as making matcha, but it does take time to find the perfect spot.
My favourite spot used to be the little window alcove in my old room back in my foster house. Every room had these window alcoves that I absolutely loved. In my room, I would have pillows and blankets to make it even cozier.
Reading can be fictional (not real) or non-fictional (real). It is all based on your preferences. I love a mixture of fantasy and self-improvement. Currently, I am reading Serpent and Dove, by Shelby Mahurin as well as, The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy.
The Compound Effect is about making small changes in your life in order to make your life better in the long run. Serpent and Dove is about a young witch who runs away from her coven to a place where witches are burned. The main male character ends finding himself married to the young runaway witch.
I find that reading helps alleviate the stress of taking care of kids because you are able to either improve yourself or escape from reality. Sometimes it is hard to get that break from the kid because I don’t live in a place where I have an escape room.
When we lived in our last places with a bathtub, Kiefer and I would have relaxing baths. When I would get stressed out, he would put candles around the tub, essential oils and Epsom salts in the water and have the candlelight glowing in the room.
It was very relaxing and helped me destress. Now that we have lived in our current place, which only has a shower, neither of us can destress properly. Maybe that’s why we have been at each other’s throats lately. Below is a list of soothing essential oil blends you can put in your bathwater. They each have different benefits as well.
- Stress Less
- 5 drops of cedarwood
- 3 drops Lavender
- 3 drops Frankencense
- Ocean Breeze
- 5 drops Cedarwood
- 4 drops Lemon
- 2 drops Rosemary
- Morning Forest
- 2 drops Cedarwood
- 2 drops Peppermint
- 3 drops Siberian Fir
- Sleep Better
- 3 drops Cedarwood
- 3 drops Lavender
- 2 drops Vetiver
Exercising is a great way of self-care. There are many different ways of exercise. Ways that you wouldn’t even know about was exercising! I like to think that walking through nature isn’t a form of exercise but in all technicality it is. When exercising, you are putting yourself in front of everybody because you want to make yourself a better version of yourself.
- Yoga – Yoga is a form of self meditation through breathing and slow movements. There are different types of yoga including;
- Vinyasa – which also means “to place in a special way.” This means that the form specializes in simple movements while breathing. Many forms such as ashtanga, power yoga and prana can be considered vinyasa.
- Hatha – This form is called hatha based on the sanskrit term “hatha”which is an umbrella term for all physical forms. In the West, hatha refers to all the other physical forms of yoga that is grounding. There are other forms such as kriya, raja, and karma yoga that are seperate from the physical portion of yoga.
- Lyengar – This form of yoga focuses on alignment as well as detailed and precise movements. Lyengar yoga was founded by B.K.S Lyengar. Generally poses are held for a long time while adjusting the minutaie of the pose. It relies heavily on props to help students perfect their form and go deeper into their poses in a safe manner. This style is great for people with injuries who need to work slowly and methodically.
- Kundalini – This practice is equal parts spiritual and physical. It is all about releasing the energy in your bodythat is said to be trapped or coiled in the lower spine. These classes are fast-moving, with invigorating postures and breath exercises, as well as involving chanting, mantra, and meditation.
- Ashtanga – Ashtanga is translated from Sanskrit to read as “Eight Limb path.” It involves very demanding sequences of postures, which is not meant for beginners. Ashtanga starts with the five sun salutation A’s and five sun salutation B’s, then moves into a series of standing and floor poses.
- Bikram – This type of yoga is named after Bikram Choudhury. It features sequences of of set poses in a sauna-like room, which is typically set to 105 degrees and 40% humidity. It features 26 basic postures with each one performed twice.
- Yin – A slow paced style with seated postures that are held for longer than the normal 30 seconds. Gravity is mostly the main component, and is great for beginners.
- Restorative – This is the best form for when you want to wind down from a long day and relax your mind. It also helps to cleanse and free your mind. You spend more time in fewer postures throughout the class and the poses are modified to be easier and more relaxing. Props, like in lyengar, are used and to help you sink deeper into relaxation.
- Walks – Walking, as well as running, helps you form a pace that allows you to enjoy the scenery around you. There is fast paced walks, slow paced, as well as scenery walks. Scenery walks are different than the other ones I mentioned as you have to pick a place that has beautiful scenery, you stop often to take pictures, and continue on. It also allows you to stop and reflect on what is going on in your mind.
When making self-care a priority, you need to put your needs in front of anybody else. I know it will be tough but you can do it.
Let me know in the comments below how you make self-care a priority.