Everyone needs self-care, but do you know who needs it more? The people who are struggling with everyday activities. The people who don’t want to talk to others, or are having a hard time trying to talk. These self care tips will want to make you go out and help that one friend who is struggling right now.
Sometimes the last thing people want when suffering with mental health is help. Only because we try over and over again to do it our selves. However, sometimes, we cry out silently for help, only to get silence in return.
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I only know this, because I do it myself. I try so hard to do everything myself, that I break down. I lose motivation, I end up sleeping all day and I reject my partner and son. Other times, I cry out silently for help, and only one person sees, but I reject him.
When self-care comes into effect, we allow ourselves to destress, and forget the world around us. It allows us to regroup, and reconquer the world, despite everything negative around us.
Self-Care Tip 1: Cup of Tea/Coffee
When I am alone, I crave the warmth of something. Not because I am cold physically, but because I crave the warmth of a person. That person isn’t always around, so I turn to a warm cup of joe. Or tea. Whatever floats my fancy at the time.
When I was younger, my foster mom used to get this tea. It allowed me to focus and zen out. With a lovely blend of green tea, mixed with invigorating scents of spearmint and bright lemongrass, it will help you focus and have a true moment of zen. OHM!!!
Fall Into A Book
If you’re like me, you will love a good book. With plenty of choices out there, I am sure you will find your perfect combo. Now pair that with the tea above, and you are set for a lovely self-care moment.
I love books, don’t get me wrong. However, there are certain books that are meant for the right moment, and to me, history books don’t make the cut. I love a book that will get me lost in the moment, forgetting all my worries and realities.
For me, right now that book will have to be The Awakening by Nora Roberts. Its the perfect blend of history and fantasy. The Awakening brings you to modern day Ireland, with the main character wanting to find herself again. She then finds out that she is the granddaughter of a witch. She also finds out about a world of faeries and mermaids.
I am getting ahead of myself. You need to read it for yourself. It’s truly a good book. I cannot wait for the second book to come out this year.
As a spiritual person, meditation is low on my list. Not because I don’t like it, but because its hard to stay still. Meditation is all about sitting or laying perfectly still, and letting your mind wander.
I think mindfullness is really my downfall, as being a criticizing person of my well being, I don’t like being alone with my thoughts. I may take up meditation, in order to calm my thoughts.
When meditating, it helps to lay down on your bed, or even sit on a comfortable pillow on the floor. Put some guided meditation videos from youtube on, and let your mind wander.
The way my counsellor puts it, is when you are not thinking about the negative thoughts, you don’t judge yourself. In this state, it is always good to notice your thoughts, and just say “OK,” and let them go.
This way, you aren’t focusing on one thought, but acknowledging them and letting them flow. You can also purchase meditation books, like this one, to help guide you.
Now, you may see that colouring isn’t for adults. However, there are many different books out there for different views. I like colouring disney, this horror chibi greyscale book (its my favorite so far), as well as finding childrens coloring books that I like.
Its always fun to take a break from the real world and color your problems away. There are also adult coloring books out there, that might tickle your fancy.
This one seems to be the best for those that love to swear. It may get you motivated enough to do those dishes you have been avoiding for weeks.
A Calming Bath
Now when we had a bath, my husband would put candles around the tub, with epsom salts in it to aid sore muscles, and a book for even more relaxation. He knew I needed the time away from a screaming baby.
Now, we just have a shower, which sucks balls. There is a calming feature about it though. If you pretend that it is a rain shower, then its calming in itself.
Falling in Love
I hope this list allows you to fall in love with self-care as much as it has helped me. Everyone is different, and has their own views on what counts as self-care.
Let me know in the comments below what your ideas of self-care entail!